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The Physics of Similarity
Resonance, Information and the Structure of True Connection

November 19, 2025

Love · Resonance · Quantum Physics · YourLoveCode

How Modern Physics Helps Explain the 5× Similarity Rule

(without mysticism, without exaggeration — but with real scientific grounding)

1. A surprising convergence between psychology and physics

When two people remain connected, stable and emotionally compatible for many years, everyday language calls it “chemistry.” YourLoveCode goes one step further and turns this intuition into a clear concept: the 5× Similarity Rule – a central formula for love, resonance and relationship compatibility.

The more similar two people are across five key dimensions — genetics, personality, emotional patterns, values and lifestyle — the more easily a stable state of resonance emerges.

Interestingly, this idea is not only supported by psychology and neuroscience; it also fits remarkably well into a modern, information-theoretical view of the universe, as described by Thomas and Brigitte Görnitz in “From Quantum Physics to Consciousness. Cosmos, Mind and Matter.”

So the question is:

Is there a deeper principle behind the 5× Similarity Rule?
And could physics – of all disciplines – help us understand why similarity creates stable love?

The answer is: **yes** – but not in the way pop-science clichés suggest.

2. What psychology has known for decades: partners pair by similarity

Scientific evidence on partner choice is remarkably consistent:

  • Couples are, on average, far more similar than random chance would predict (education, intelligence, personality profiles, values, daily habits, physical traits).
  • This phenomenon is known as assortative mating and is one of the most replicated findings in social and relationship science.
  • Similarity predicts **relationship satisfaction and long-term stability** better than the popular slogan “opposites attract.”

The 5× Similarity Rule is therefore not magic or esotericism; it is a **structured reflection of well-established human behavior**, especially in the context of romantic relationships and partner matching.

That is the classical science part.

Now comes the more intriguing layer: quantum physics and the science of information.

3. Görnitz’s perspective: The world is not “matter” — it is information

In “From Quantum Physics to Consciousness”, physicists Thomas and Brigitte Görnitz present a radically modern view of reality:

The foundation of reality is not matter, but quantum information.
Matter, mind, consciousness – all of them are different organizations of the same underlying informational substratum, which they call “Protyposis.”

From this perspective:

  • The universe is fundamentally holistic – relationships between elements matter as much as the elements themselves.
  • Systems become stable when their **informational structures overlap**.
  • These structures can synchronize into **coherent, low-energy states** – a kind of informational resonance.

When we apply this to human interaction and romantic relationships:

Two individuals whose informational structures are similar across multiple dimensions synchronize more easily and more stably.

This is very close to what YourLoveCode calls **“Resonance”**: a state of emotional, cognitive and relational alignment that feels natural, stable and deeply meaningful.

4. Why physics and the 5× Similarity Rule point to the same principle

4.1 In quantum physics, similarity is not a detail — it is a structural principle

Quantum systems exhibit several core features that echo the logic behind the 5× Similarity Rule:

  • Systems with many shared degrees of freedom couple more strongly and more efficiently (they have structural overlap).
  • They display holistic behavior (correlation, coherence, entanglement) that depends on the **compatibility of their informational states**.
  • Stability emerges **not from brute force**, but from matching patterns and coherent structures.

These are not metaphors from pop-psychology –
they are **mathematical properties of information-based physical systems** as studied in quantum information theory.

4.2 The 5× Rule is the macroscopic version of the same logic

The five dimensions of the 5× Similarity Rule – genes, personality, emotional wiring, values, lifestyle – describe the **informational architecture of a person**.

When two such architectures deeply overlap:

  • friction decreases,
  • predictability and trust increase,
  • coordination becomes effortless,
  • the relationship enters a **self-stabilizing, energy-efficient state**.

That is exactly how physical systems behave when they share a common structure and compatible patterns.

In this sense, the 5× Similarity Rule is the **human-scale, psychological translation of a universal physical pattern**.

5. Where scientific honesty matters

To stay scientifically precise, some clarifications are crucial:

  • Quantum physics does not claim:
    “People fall in love because their wave functions entangle.”
  • Görnitz’s theory does not describe dating or partner selection; it describes the **structure of reality as information**.

And yet, we can say with confidence:

The 5× Similarity Rule is fully compatible with the modern informational-physical worldview.

It is essentially a **high-level, biological–human application** of a universal principle that appears in physics, systems theory and complexity science:

Similarity → Correlation → Coherence → Stability

The physics does not predict romance –
but it explains why systems with deep structural overlap tend to behave harmoniously.

And humans, their brains, their emotions and their relationships are also systems – extremely complex ones, but not exempt from the logic of information.

6. In simple terms

What YourLoveCode calls the **5× Similarity Rule** is the human-scale expression of a deep structural truth found across physics and information theory:

Systems with similar informational structures synchronize more easily, more harmoniously and more stably.

This principle holds in quantum theory, in complex systems, in neuroscience
and in the dynamics of **love, attraction and long-term relationships**.

The 5× Rule is therefore not mystical and not “New Age”.
It is a clear, elegantly formulated model that translates
a **fundamental physical principle** into the language of **love, resonance and human compatibility**.

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